Sad more than happy
Worries and fears seem to control your life
Feeling desperately lonely
Feel like you are hiding the real you
Struggling with frustration and anger
Difficult emotions like depression, anxiety, anger, and loneliness can be hard to understand, and even harder to overcome by yourself – especially when you can’t point to a clear likely cause.
People start therapy for many reasons. Some get therapy because they don’t like the way they feel in emotional pain or under stress, more often than not. Some want therapy so they can stop pretending, and grow the courage to be completely themselves. Some feel out of control, and want their life back. Some are secretly afraid there is something terribly wrong with them.
In many cases, people are experiencing these kinds of things because of old hurts and injuries from childhood that never really went away. This often looks like situations where they are struggling with everyday life.
Various situations can cause an injury of childhood. Experiencing or witnessing a trauma and not having the support needed at the time to heal from it, is an obvious kind of injury of childhood. Growing up in an abusive or chaotic household, or being emotionally abandoned, or physically neglected, can contribute to the injuries of childhood.
But other, less clear types of injury might include not getting the parenting that was needed, or somehow not developing the emotional resilience that others have.
Even situations in childhood with well-meant competitiveness, coupled with exacting standards that included frequent or ridiculing criticism can become injuries of childhood.
When these injuries occur, the child-self begins to believe that there is something wrong with it. Without the nurturing and role modeling that is needed, or without challenge from an older-self, that belief sticks. And it becomes a festering emotional sore. It’s that lingering raw place inside that is hurting and in need of therapy.
If you have a raw spot that’s giving you lots of pain and worry, it’s time to do something about it.
Find out what has injured you, and
get the help you need to heal.
Abigail Blackburn, PsyD
617 . 686 . 2420