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A client got mad at me the other day.  Really mad.  Not irritated or frustrated, but mad.  The kind of mad where tone changes, sometimes tears fall and it’s hard to get the words out.

I had said something that hurt his feelings.  In the course of discussing a...

I have been working with men in my practice for roughly twenty years.  Not surprisingly, many of them show up reluctantly, often prompted by the threat of a partner who has had enough.  "Go to therapy or we are through!" is the typical ultimatum.

There has been a g...

Copyright 2014 by Abigail Blackburn, PsyD

In my view, forgiveness is a spontaneous act. True forgiveness requires remorse on the part of the perpetrator.

One of my colleagues said something to the effect of "Instead of asking victims to forgive, we should be asking perpe...

My friend Lucy, like many people, remembers Christmas holidays fondly as a child. "My sisters and I would wait all day for my parents to bring down the boxes from the attic and we would go nuts watching them unwrap everything.  Delicate ornaments, the lights and the ca...

There is a scene from the film "Home For The Holidays" where Holly Hunter's character complains that every time she steps off the plane to visit her family, she feels like she is six years old again.  I think this happens for many of us and especially during the holida...

Every year there is a significant number of parents I see who tell me in therapy that they want to be friends with their teenage children.  And every year, there is an equal, if not greater number of teenagers who tell me they don't want their parents to be their frien...

Why is Compulsive Eating Considered A Disorder?

This is an interesting question, especially if you contemplate what the word “disorder” actually means.  I am not a huge fan of the kind of language that tries to define what is “normal” and what is “abnormal.” However, it...

Copyright 2014 by Abigail Blackburn, PsyD

I like to read advice columns. I have been reading them since I was a teenager – Ann Landers, Dear Abby and a few others throughout the years.

Despite the passage of time, letter writers seem to be asking for help around the same...

Copyright 2014 by Abigail Blackburn, PsyD

Assertiveness, confrontation, speaking up – whatever word you want to use to describe advocating for oneself – is important to do for oneself. Not because it will change the behavior of others. Hostility that goes unchallenged c...

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