Article on Injuries from Childhood
Are you sad more than happy lately?
Do worries and fears seem to control your life?
Feeling desparately lonely, or
like you are hiding the real you?
Struggling with frustration and anger?
Difficult emotions like depression, anxiety, anger, and loneliness can be hard to understand, and even harder to overcome by yourself – especially when you can’t point to a clear likely cause.
People start therapy for many reasons. Some get therapy because they don’t like the way they feel in emotional pain or stress more often than not. Some want therapy so they can stop pretending and grow the courage to be completely themselves. Some feel out of control and want their life back. Some are secretly afraid there is something terribly wrong with them.
In many cases, put in psychological jargon, what’s wrong is that they have suffered one or more injuries of childhood.
Various situations can cause an injury of childhood. Experiencing or witnessing a trauma and not having the support needed at the time to heal from it is an obvious kind of injury of childhood. Growing up in an abusive or chaotic household, or being emotionally abandonned, or physically neglected can contribute to the injuries of childhood.
But other, less clear types of injury might include not getting the parenting that was needed, or somehow not developing the emotional resilience that others have. Even a childhood with well-meant competitiveness, coupled with exacting standards that included frequent or ridiculing criticism can become an injury of childhood.
When these injuries occur, the child-self begins to believe that there is something wrong with them. Without the nurturing and role modeling that is needed, or without challenge from an older-self, that belief sticks. And it became a festering emotional sore. It’s that lingering raw place inside that is hurting and in need of therapy.
If you have a raw spot that’s giving you lots of pain and worry, it’s time to do something about it.
To find out what has injured you, and
get the help you need to heal,
call Abigail Blackburn, PsyD
at 617 . 686 . 2420